{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"S5E5: Processing the Loss of Kobe Bryant and Grieving Those with Complicated Legacies","description":"Lady, today we are diving into an important conversation about the complicated feelings of grief. While most of the conversation centers around hearing about the news about Kobe Bryant\u2019s death, his daughter Gianna and the seven other people on the helicopter, Dom and Terri also have a larger conversation about the other thoughts and feelings that come up when someone dies. How do you respond or how are you supposed to feel when someone who assaulted you dies? How is the family supposed to feel? How are those who are aware of the situation supposed to feel? What will it do to their legacy? Do you forgive them? Do you protect them in their death? Listen in as Terri and Dom help us think through how to process our complex feelings of grief.    Quote of the Day: \u201cIt\u2019s uncomfortable to raise the worst thing someone has ever done when that someone dies, and when they are beloved. And I suppose it matters that I write this as someone who thinks that very, very few of us are all good or all bad; few of us are saintly, even fewer irredeemable.  We can admire aspects of a person\u2019s talent without erasing the ways in which they also did irreparable damage.  We can be horrified and angry by what someone did without writing them off as worthless, without seeing them go away \u2014 to jail, to the grave \u2014 and saying \u201cgood riddance.\u201d  We can \u2014 we must \u2014 assess the ways in which the rich and famous are able to exploit our admiration of their talents to pound into the ground anyone who might threaten their fame and reputation, how they so often bypass accountability and we just let them because, well, they\u2019re so talented, or so attractive, or their politics line up with ours, or they handle a ball so well.\u201d - Jill Filipovic   Takeaways: Smudging Kits On Death and Dying book feel all the feelings...they are all valid be kind to yourself...no judgments step away from social media set boundaries with those around you to get what you need utilize resources like therapy Relevant episodes  S3E10: A Fresh Perspective on Death You Need to Hear Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: herspacepodcast@gmail.com H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/groups\/herspacesanctuary\/ ","author_name":"Cultivating H.E.R Space: Uplifting Conversations for the Black Woman","author_url":"http:\/\/www.herspacepodcast.com","html":"