{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"89. death, sex, & skirts: horizontal with the co-hosts of skirt club (1 of 2)","description":"Season 3 mostly consists of threesomes, and in this episode I lie down with the founder \u2014 as well as the New York City host \u2014 of Skirt Club, a private women\u2019s club for the curious kind.  Skirt Club is also the name of their sex party, an event designed exclusively for women to explore their bicuriosity. Many of these women are primarily in romantic and sexual relationships with men. Just as I was, when I attended the Rocker Chic-themed edition of Skirt Club a couple of months ago in a mansion-like loft in New York\u2019s Financial District.  If your bunny ears perked immediately, darling, you can apply to be a member at skirtclub.co.uk  Genevieve LeJeune created the Skirt Club enterprise (they currently have parties all over Europe and the U.S.) to give women a space to explore their sexuality, without men present. She felt her bisexuality was being exploited for her boyfriend\u2019s amusement, and wanted a space away from the male gaze, curated specifically for female empowerment, freedom, and sensual exploration. She couldn\u2019t find it anywhere. So she built it. She is a fiercely independent businesswoman and adventurer, a world-traveler, a stigma-challenging, femme-presenting, entrepreneur of the unconventional. And she is also very, very beautiful. Shelby Nicole is Genevieve\u2019s friend (Genevieve said that she doesn\u2019t work with anyone she wouldn\u2019t want to be friends with, so she is living the maxim \u201cdo what you love with people you like\u201d). Shelby is also Skirt Club\u2019s New York City Event Manager and hostess. She greeted me with lingerie and a smile when I arrived in my sequins and leather. Shelby is a creative of many kinds, an actor, a filmmaker, a writer, a model. She can be found in her sex kitten form, resplendent in lingerie on her Instagram @reclusemuse \u2014 but you\u2019ll have to request to follow her, because she is Private. Shelby is a challenging person, as in, she challenges every idea. You may find this conversation to be less vulnerable than my usual episodes, perhaps because I had just come from a funeral, but maybe also because I felt, in a way, a bit on guard. This was interesting. I usually curate conditions for myself to record under which I don\u2019t feel defensive in any way. I don\u2019t usually get horizontal with people I feel the need to verbally parry with \u2014 it makes it harder for me to share with you my special self, my soft underbelly. I did my best here, and I was honest about feeling challenged, which is ultimately the the powerful thing I ask of myself.  So in this episode you\u2019ll see what happens when I feel the need to justify and defend my words \u2014 I get louder, I talk over them, and I do not cry. I try to live by Brene Brown\u2019s mantra: \u201cDon\u2019t shrink, don\u2019t puff up, just stand your sacred ground.\u201d But. I think I puffed up here. Still, in this episode we talk about Max\u2019s death and the funeral, magical thinking, how Genevieve was taught nothing about sex growing up, and Shelby learned through books left on her bed. We talked about Shelby\u2019s matter-of-fact-ness and my reaction to it. We talk about British humor, awkwardness, and media, the internet as a safe haven, Shelby\u2019s first period, how none of us want children (and how refreshing that is for me!), the story of how Genevieve married a man when she never wanted to marry anyone, having very little sex, personally, in a life that\u2019s full of it, marital bed death & resensitization, the 4pm masturbation break, a brief history of Shelby\u2019s search for orgasm, my deep envious crushes on girls, the kind of women we\u2019re attracted to, distinguishing bisexual & pansexual, recognizing if we are bisexual and biromantic, and how Genevieve\u2019s ex was repulsed by her interest in women. This episode was mixed and mastered by Irving Gadhoury. You can find him for all your audio needs at IGrecording.com. As ever, my lovely intro music was composed by Alan Markley, who is on Instagram as @plasticcannons, and my saucy likeness of a logo was illustrated by Shana Shay, whom you can hire through 99 designs. In next week\u2019s episode, which is available exclusively to patrons of the horizontal arts, we discuss first sexual experiences with women, my desire to voyeur at their Skirt Club party, and, to complete the trifecta of taboo topics, we also talk about: money. To listen to that episode, and for access to The Full Horizontal, which includes all the part twos of every conversation, go to Patreon.com\/horizontalwithlila and become a $7+\/month patron. Until next time: May you have someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. In 3 days, I fly down to Orlando to attend my first podcast conference, so that is what I\u2019m looking forward to! Thank you, my dear. Thank you for getting horizontal. And now, come lie down with us in the Financial District of New York, New York. ","author_name":"horizontal with lila","author_url":"https:\/\/horizontalwithlila.com","html":"