{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"Ep. 6 Setting Boundaries Without Guilt & Finding Your Purpose ","description":"Guest: Carley Schweet Carley is someones whose story I felt like I immediately could relate with. I didn\u2019t have to dig too deep to see the parallels of being overworked, underpaid and speed too thin and dealing with Chronic boundary violators in past. \u201cCarley once worked in the intense corporate world of NYC, spending her workdays people pleasing and her nights and weekends reeling with sleepless anxiety. She struggled with low self-with and poor relationships. Over the past few years, she went through a process of personal transformation and realized her issues arose from being afraid to say no-whether out of reluctance to hurt others\u2019 feelings or due to her own crippling anxiety. She quit her corporate job and graduated from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in New York.\u201d Carley speaks with me about her first time experienced an anxiety attack. On the outside her life seemed so perfect. She had what looked like a wonderful fashion job any girl would die to have. She looked around and realized her path and life goals wasn\u2019t aligned with herself. Moving to New York after college and working in the fashion industry was a natural next step in her life. Carley made the the decision to step out of the role and pursue what brings her joy. The next step? It was scary, she tells me. In 2015 she enrolled in the Institute for Integrative Nutrition while still working her full time job. She saved up while going to school and working the full time job. She paid off her coaching tuition and started to take in clients and become her own boss. She then quit her corporate job. She was no longer the \u201cpeople pleaser,\u201d that was so unhealthy for her. Carley says it\u2019s okay to say no. This has been an issue I\u2019ve personally struggled with for years. It was such a blessing to meet Carley when I was looking for a boundaries expert and someone who has taken a leap of faith. Carley\u2019s book titled \u201cBoundaries with Soul: A guide to regaining control of your time and truest values (Without feeling guilty!) A big theme in my HeyHeart143 conversations have been getting to this deeper level of authenticity. Which is really funny because today I learned my \u201cmoon sign,\u201d in scorpio which is apparently the deepest sign according to astrologers meaning I go deeper in conversation and in life.  In other conversations about meditation, or yoga, or healing breath we speak about digging so deep into our soul we release layers until getting to our authentic and highest selves. In Carley\u2019s book, she writes \u201cI wrote this book for those who want to get reacquainting with their authentic, truest, highest selves (maybe for the first time!). Carley tells me she equates this \u2018reacquainting to authentic self,\u2019 like peeling layers of an onion. She was captivated by what she was reading online about nutrition and everything she wanted to coach people through. This is when she felt she can see crystal clear for the first time in a long time and made a firm boundary with herself to cancel her Saturday plans and focus on herself. It was during these moments Carley says to pay attention to the subtle feelings you feel when you\u2019re drawn to something you enjoy. \u201cI always tell people to sit down and reflect and what\u2019s most important to them.\u201d \u201cGet super clear without input from others.\u201d What\u2019s important to you will only come from you. \u201cWe all have the opportunity to find those moments, we just have to get quite enough and start digging around.\u201d Carley says to allow your mind to get quiet and allow your body to digest everything that\u2019s going on. \u201cThe title of my book came to me when I was getting a massage, not when I was sitting at my computer thinking of the process.\u201d I love this lesson. Carley speaks with me about setting boundaries, with friends, family, self and business.  When we think of boundaries we think of (or at least I think of) just the external boundaries I have with others. Having internal boundaries, Carley says, like \u201cI\u2019m going to gym at XX time everyday no matter what,\u201d is a boundary. Boundaries for beginners: MAKE AN APPOINTMENT WITH YOURSELF. Setting a strong internal boundary honors your energy and what your body requires. Often when people have issues setting boundaries Carley encourages them to set boundaries internally. \u201cHow can you modify you  behavior that doesn\u2019t involved  anyone directly to take a little bit of your power and feel more rested?\u201d HOW DO YOU KNOW IF YOU\u2019RE A PEOPLE PLEASER? \u201cHow many white lies have you told lately?\u201d You don\u2019t need make excuses or white lies to say no.You don\u2019t need to feel guilty. This is a good indicator that you are taking on too much. Quote that stood out for Carley about our self respect at the workplace:  \u201cYou\u2019re hired for your talent and not your stamina.\u201d Reframe your workday. Carley is 15 weeks pregnant at the time of this interview with her first baby. She says this has brought up many lessons from her past that keep coming back. Today she\u2019s working on setting boundaries with unsolicited advice. Instagram: @Carley_Schweet Website: CarleySchweet.com Boundaries with Soul is on Amazon. Carley\u2019s self help course discount code | HeyHeart15 ","author_name":"HeyHeart143's podcast","author_url":"http:\/\/heyheart143.libsyn.com\/website","html":"