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MFP 393: Helping Kids Grow Through Hard Things
High expectations along with high support produces resilient kids. Summary In this episode, Mike and Alicia focus on the challenge of raising resilient kids in a culture that often prioritizes comfort and protection. They emphasize that while parents naturally shield their children from pain and failure, doing so too often can actually prevent them from developing the strength and perseverance they need in life. Instead, resilience is built when kids are allowed to express appropriate struggles, learn from mistakes, and grow through adversity with the steady support of their parents. This re-release of a 2017 episode encourages couples to find a balance between being caring and supportive without over-rescuing, and to intentionally foster a family culture where challenges are seen as opportunities for growth rather than problems to avoid.   Key Takeaways Kids will experience all kind of small hardships in childhood and these are life’s way of making them stronger.  For example, not being chosen, relationship difficulties, failure in athletics or school. Some kids are more or less naturally resilient Parents need to be aware of the pitfalls of taking on their children’s pain or seeing their failure as our failure.  Practice intentional parenting.  Begin with speaking to them the truth, then teach them to take responsibility for their actions, and see how they can learn from the experience.   High expectations along with high support produce resilient kids.     Couple Discussion Questions How do we usually react when our child fails, gets hurt emotionally, or feels left out? How can we better balance being supportive without removing struggle?   Resources MFP 353: Why are Kids so Anxious? MFP 335: Safety-ism  
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