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  <title>4:1 Calm, Confident, Clear: Anchoring to Your Wise Self</title>
  <description>In this episode, Susan introduces the core idea behind Internal Family Systems and what it means for parenting: beneath our anxiety, anger, and overwhelm is a calm, confident &amp;quot;Wise Self&amp;quot; — the steady part of us that functions as the Captain of the ship for our kids. When our children act out, it's a protective part of us that takes over, not our true Self.  Why our reactive outbursts (&amp;quot;I didn't mean to say that!&amp;quot;) come from protective parts, not our Wise Self. How old wounds get reactivated by our kids' behavior, fueling out-of-proportion reactions. Why the real work of parenting isn't finding the perfect script, but learning to stay anchored to our calm, &amp;quot;captain of the ship&amp;quot; Self.  Transcript available at this page </description>
  <author_name>Parenting Without Power Struggles</author_name>
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