1 rich Libsyn https://www.libsyn.com 90 600 Have you ever tried to stop people-pleasing, only to find that it created more tension, distance, or difficulty in your relationships? Perhaps you have worked on setting boundaries, saying no, and doing all of the things you thought you were supposed to do, yet you still feel stuck. Or maybe your boundaries have started to feel more defensive than empowering, and instead of creating healthier relationships, they seem to be creating more disconnection. People-pleasing can be a surprisingly tricky pattern to change. In fact, when people focus only on stopping the behavior, it can sometimes backfire, affecting their relationships, emotional well-being, and even their health. That is because there may be more happening underneath the pattern than most people realize. In this quick IQ episode, Brandy shares a different way of looking at people-pleasing and reveals why simply forcing yourself to say no may not create the freedom or healthy relationships you are looking for. In this episode, you'll discover: Why common advice about people-pleasing can sometimes backfire The important issue that may be overlooked when trying to change this pattern Why setting boundaries do not need to feel cold, harsh, or disconnected How to honor yourself while remaining loving and thoughtful How to create relationships with greater sweetness, reciprocity, and genuine connection When addressed in the right way, changing this pattern can feel uplifting and transformative. You can learn to honor yourself, say no when needed, and still create relationships that feel loving, harmonious, and deeply connected. The goal is not to become less loving. It is to create a healthier way of loving yourself and others. Free Mind-Body Healing Training If you’d like a deeper understanding of mind-body healing and how self-healing works: Click here to join the FREE training. Brandy Gillmore’s Mind-Body Healing: Scientific Research If you’d like scientific research on mind-body healing, you can view Brandy Gillmore’s work published in a Medical Journal. Personal Empowerment and Self-Healing Courses If you’re ready to heal yourself and change your life: Click here to explore our GIFT Mind-Body Healing™ and the GIFT Method™ Courses and GIFT Workshops. &amp;nbsp; Connect With Brandy Follow Brandy on Facebook Follow Brandy on Instagram Questions? Discover more at https://brandygillmore.com or email support@BrandyGillmore.com &amp;nbsp; Important Note: This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not a replacement for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Please continue to consult your doctor or qualified healthcare provider as recommended. Click here to view our full disclaimer- https://brandygillmore.com/terms/. © Brandy Gillmore / Human Potential Revolution, Inc. All Rights Reserved. This podcast and all related content are provided solely for personal, noncommercial use. No portion may be copied, recorded, transcribed, closely paraphrased, adapted, repackaged, distributed, taught, or used to create or support any course, coaching program, training, certification, product, service, or derivative content without prior written permission. This content may not be uploaded to, entered into, stored in, used by, or incorporated into any artificial-intelligence, machine-learning, voice-cloning, digital-replica, data-training, or related system. By accessing, listening to, viewing, downloading, or otherwise using this content, you agree to our Intellectual Property and Content Use Terms. If you do not agree, do not access or use the content. Full Terms: https://brandygillmore.com/content-terms&amp;nbsp; Permissions: support@brandygillmore.com &amp;nbsp; Heal Yourself. Change Your Life™ https://brandygillmore.com/podcast-episodes/ <iframe title="Libsyn Player" style="border: none" src="//html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/42162565/height/90/theme/custom/thumbnail/yes/direction/forward/render-playlist/no/custom-color/88AA3C/" height="90" width="600" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen></iframe> https://assets.libsyn.com/secure/item/42162565