1 rich Libsyn https://www.libsyn.com 90 600 There is a certain irony in your situation, visible only if you step back far enough. You have spent your entire adult life getting very good at one particular skill: earning. It built the career, the bank account, the reputation. Then you walked into the one room in life where earning stops working — love — and wondered why your strategy had failed you. Your strategy didn’t fail. It’s just that the room is now different. Underlying all of it is one contract, signed before you could read, and honoured every day since. The contract says you must earn love. But love, the real kind, cannot be earned. And you will never know it — with a partner, an ageing parent, an old friend — until you face the foundation beneath. A part of you, learned long ago, believes you are not worthy of love. But you are. Your existence is the proof. This episode shows you why every relationship has ended the same way. It names the capacity that carries you through any loss, any failure, any pain an intimate life will eventually bring. And it shows you what the right foundation actually is, and how to lay it. Retire the contract. Before you sign it once more on a marriage certificate. Listen now.&amp;nbsp; Show Highlights Include: The one capacity you must build if you want a fulfilling intimate life (and why you don’t need the right partner, the right circumstances, or the right timing to start cultivating this skill) (0:26)&amp;nbsp; Why you don’t have a dating problem or a finding the right partner problem (even though the real problem wears both of these masks to deceive you) (1:35)&amp;nbsp; How to stop carrying the baggage of a lack of self-worth that will cripple every relationship you have until you’re fed up with feeling empty inside (2:10) Why finding the right partner fundamentally cannot help you feel worthy of love (2:45)&amp;nbsp; The insidious “disease acting like the cure” trap you’re falling into in relationships and in therapy that will take you further from a fulfilling intimate life as it pretends to bring you closer (3:30)&amp;nbsp; How greeting cards and pop songs have warped your perception of love and actually has made it harder to find unconditional love (4:57)&amp;nbsp; The precise psychological process of how your nervous system learned you’re not worthy (and how a seemingly innocent memory can control every aspect of your adult life) (8:52)&amp;nbsp; How to help your nervous system know that you carry a worth that no resume and no failure could ever take away (11:25)&amp;nbsp; Why changing just one word in your vocabulary can almost mystically open up a new door in your life: one that leads to unconditional love (18:40)&amp;nbsp; For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/&amp;nbsp; Feeling like success in one area of life has come at the expense of another? Maybe you’ve crushed it in your career, but your relationships feel strained. Or you’ve built the life you thought you wanted, yet there’s still something important missing. I’ve put together a free 3-minute assessment to help you see what’s really holding you back. Answer a few simple questions, and you’ll get instant access to a personalized masterclass that speaks directly to where you are right now. It’s fast. It’s practical. And it could change the way you approach leadership, love, and fulfillment. Take the first step here → https://dtphd.com/quiz Beyond Success https://www.davidtianphd.com/ <iframe title="Libsyn Player" style="border: none" src="//html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/41176715/height/90/theme/custom/thumbnail/yes/direction/forward/render-playlist/no/custom-color/88AA3C/" height="90" width="600" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen></iframe> https://assets.libsyn.com/secure/content/201620790