1 rich Libsyn https://www.libsyn.com 90 600 This episode is brought to you by Audible, Ancient + Brave and Fatty15. Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally—they rewire your brain.&amp;nbsp;Cole Zesiger is here to unpack the science of heartbreak, why it can feel like addiction, and what actually helps you move forward. He dives into the truth about no-contact, attachment styles, and why many people stay stuck chasing closure or clinging to the idea of “the one.” Cole also shares practical strategies to rebuild your life after a breakup, explaining how healing comes from creating meaning, regulating your emotions, and building a life that feels better than the one you lost. Whether you're trying to get an ex back or finally let go, this conversation reframes heartbreak as a powerful opportunity for growth and becoming your best self. Follow Cole @coachcolezesiger Follow Chase @chase_chewning ---- 00:00 – Heartbreak activates the brain like addiction 01:27 – Why no-contact feels harder before it helps 02:04 – What to do after no-contact actually works 03:13 – Why you feel obsessed with your ex 04:21 – The 2 keys to healing after a breakup 05:57 – Rejection, confusion, and creating meaning 07:53 – “Detoxing” from your ex like a drug 08:18 – Attachment styles explained (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) 12:41 – Love bombing and why it works on anxious attachment 14:32 – Why avoidant partners pull away 15:26 – Who is most likely to get back together 17:10 – If YOU broke up with them… what now? 18:24 – Relief vs regret after ending a relationship 20:15 – How to know if you made the right decision 22:03 – When words don’t match actions in relationships 27:26 – Why people don’t change (Tony Robbins insight) 29:01 – The “teeter-totter” of love vs fear 31:32 – When to stop trying to fix the relationship 33:24 – Show vs tell: why actions matter more than words 34:07 – Turning heartbreak into your best life 36:20 – Is hope helping you or hurting you? 39:33 – The myth of “the one” 42:35 – Why you can find connection again 45:11 – You don’t find love—you build it 48:05 – Why you’re attracted to certain people (empathic resonance) 50:10 – Should you date after a breakup? ----- Episode resources: Get Cole's audiobook FREE with your trial of Audible Save 20% on Ancient + Brave with code EVERFORWARD Save 15% on C15:0 essential fatty acid from Fatty15 Ever Forward Radio with Chase Chewning https://www.everforwardradio.com <iframe title="Libsyn Player" style="border: none" src="//html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/40638690/height/90/theme/custom/thumbnail/yes/direction/forward/render-playlist/no/custom-color/0a0a0b/" height="90" width="600" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen></iframe> https://assets.libsyn.com/secure/content/200172950