1 rich Libsyn https://www.libsyn.com 90 600 Full Auto Friday to round out the week! A listener flew from San Diego to Kalispell to tell a woman she was his person. He laid it all out on a couch in my coffee shop. I walk through the two things that I think matter most going into a marriage — communication and patience. A 30-year-old writes in paralyzed by fear. Lifting weights, jiu-jitsu, new restaurants, driving in cities — his brain goes straight to worst-case on everything. What is the difference between irrational and improbable, and why he needs to go talk to a professional who can help him rewire the path his thoughts are carving? I answer a question on how to pick the right jiu-jitsu gym. My wife Leah's advice: look at the makeup of the mat. If it looks like society, you're in the right place.&amp;nbsp; And I finally tell the story of being on the CBS reality show Hunted — union hours, wardrobe continuity, and pretending to play hide and seek in a warehouse in Bakersfield for eight hours a day. Enjoy Pick up a copy of my book Drownproof: https://www.clearedhotpodcast.com/book Join the Cleared Hot Newsletter: https://www.clearedhotpodcast.com &amp;nbsp; Today's Sponsors: Ridge: For a limited time, our listeners get 10% off at Ridge by using code &quot;clearedhot&quot; at checkout. https://www.Ridge.com Helix: Go to https://www.helixsleep.com/CLEAREDHOT&amp;nbsp;for 20% off sitewide! Cleared Hot - Powered By BRCC https://www.andystumpf.com <iframe title="Libsyn Player" style="border: none" src="//html5-player.libsyn.com/embed/episode/id/40550520/height/90/theme/custom/thumbnail/yes/direction/forward/render-playlist/no/custom-color/070000/" height="90" width="600" scrolling="no" allowfullscreen webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen oallowfullscreen msallowfullscreen></iframe> https://assets.libsyn.com/secure/item/40550520