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  <title>The Cost of Quiet with Colette Jane Fehr</title>
  <description>You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough.&amp;amp;nbsp; But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death.&amp;amp;nbsp; This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us.&amp;amp;nbsp; In this episode:&amp;amp;nbsp;  Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should)&amp;amp;nbsp; What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up&amp;amp;nbsp; The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet)&amp;amp;nbsp; How to get out of the Cave of Resentment&amp;amp;nbsp; Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything&amp;amp;nbsp; The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think)&amp;amp;nbsp; Your communication report card (we all have one!)&amp;amp;nbsp; How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it&amp;amp;nbsp;  Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking.&amp;amp;nbsp; Because the cost of quiet? It's your life.&amp;amp;nbsp; Pre-order The Cost of Quiet here Follow Collete on Instagram&amp;amp;nbsp; My Substack article, and free quiz: Reveal Your Mask&amp;amp;nbsp; &amp;amp;nbsp; </description>
  <author_name>The Selfish Woman</author_name>
  <author_url>https://www.valeriejones.ca</author_url>
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