{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"63. I love you and I beat you to it: horizontal with an actor-romantic","description":"In this and next week\u2019s episode, I lie down with my college friend, the actor-romantic, Triple Threat, improviser, mimic, voice-over artist, chameleon, ham, and all-around delightful, well-adjusted human, Burl Moseley.   He\u2019s such a phenom that he recently got his own song on the musical TV show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. If I were you, just before listening to this episode, I\u2019d go straight to YouTube and type in \u201cDon\u2019t be a Lawyer.\u201d He sings, acts, and dances the bejeesus out of it, in a full-on bright-pink 90s suit with a chunky tie. I have watched it an embarrassing number of times, I have insisted that my housemates watch it, and when I arrived at Burl\u2019s apartment to record this episode in early December, I danced around his place singing it back to him. I\u2019m reaally into it. And if you\u2019ve ever known a lawyer (and I\u2019ve dated two!) I\u2019m pretty sure you'll be into it as well. Burl and I both went to NYU\u2019s Tisch School of the Arts for Drama. He was a luminary in my favorite improv troupe, and I always made it a point to show up to their shows and cheer them on. Improv was never my thing, but Burl is a natural improviser \u2026 I think that\u2019s part of the reason he\u2019s so good at life-ing. In this first half of our conversation, we talk about the origins of being such a live wire,  the two types of military kids, making as many friends as possible, casual misogyny and male friends, Burl\u2019s \u201cshowing out\u201d at school, and my attitude problem, our childhood crushes, how Burl felt about his parent\u2019s PDA, the first kiss ritual, the mom & dad sofa, and trying to undo the damage that Disney has done. If you enjoy cozying up with us, and want to listen to next week\u2019s episode with Burl (episode 64), become a patron of the horizontal arts. Patreon is the love child of crowdfunding and a subscription service, and you can access all the part twos of every episode by becoming a patron of $5 a month or more. Welcome to my newest patrons: Michael and Daniel, and an extra joyous thank you to Tiana, Rex, and Donald, for raising their pledges this month! I\u2019m deeply committed to Intimacy Maven as a career choice, and continuing to create work that diminishes loneliness, dispels shame, and alchemizes human connection, in multiple mediums. You can help me happen it. Next week\u2019s episode will be released next Friday and available to patrons of $5 and up. In it, we discuss the three C\u2019s of relationshipping, reflective listening, Burl\u2019s first kisses, willyoubemygirlfriendyoucananswermetomorrow, how movie sex and porn sex are like pro wrestling, my theory about why young people are having less sex, relationship takeaways, how Burl feels about marriage now, and a story about emotional release. I\u2019ve got just a few more episodes in Season Two, and the grand finale is something really special. I can\u2019t wait to share it with you. And then, I have some exciting twists coming for Season Three, which will start in the next couple of months, and I\u2019ll also be revamping my Patreon tiers then, so if you want to be grandfathered in at the $5 level (meaning that the tier will go up, but you\u2019ll still get access to all the episodes) go to Patreon.com\/horizontalwithlila and become part of my mission to make the world a more intimate place! For more horizontality in your inbox once a week-ish (okay, full disclosure, lately it\u2019s been once a month-ish), sign up on horizontalwithlila.com for my raw personal writing, photos of me horizontal in unexpected places, images of my guests and links to the show notes, and the occasional bit of additional fabulosity, like a plug for my sex educator housemate\u2019s online course on how to be a great lover. Here are the humans who helped make horizontal happen: Chad Michael Snavely edits horizontal. Peruse his podcast roster on chadmichael.com. Shana Shay drew horizontal. Hire her through 99designs. Alan Markley scored horizontal. Find him on Instagram as plasticcannons. And now, come lie down with us, in a place called Hollywood, in Los Angeles, California. ","author_name":"horizontal with lila","author_url":"https:\/\/horizontalwithlila.com","html":"