{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"57. fear of intimacy: horizontal with the love (drive) podcaster","description":"Horizontal is a podcast of intimacies recorded while lying down. I\u2019m really glad you\u2019re here. You can think of it as consensual eavesdropping.Together, we\u2019re making private conversations public, so that we can dispel shame, diminish loneliness, and alchemize human connection. If you\u2019ve been horizontal for a while, you know that each conversation is about 2-3 hours long, and gets divided into two episodes, released a week apart (by popular demand). For instance, this is episode #57. Next week\u2019s episode, #58. the love drive, will feature part two of my conversation with Shaun. As I said in the last couple of episodes, I\u2019m making a big shift in the way horizontal is released, and it just went into effect on Wednesday. All the part twos have now disappeared from your apps (unless you downloaded them, as I suggested! Thanks for being an early adopter!). They are now gated, and available to patrons at $5 a month and up. This is my first serious step toward making this work a sustainable career path. I intend to untether myself from my bread-and-butter job and continue expanding the horizontality \u2026 into videos, books, a TV show. I have big big dreams to SPREAD INTIMACY ACROSS THE GLOBE. And you can help me happen it. Patreon is the love child of crowd-funding and a subscription service. As a $5 month patron, you\u2019ll get a special RSS feed that you can add to your podcast player, and it gives you exclusive access to all the episodes, every part two, going back to the beginning. I\u2019ve made a little video tutorial for it, in case the RSS is confusing. It\u2019s available on my Patreon page. (See what I did there?) In this episode, I lie down in my bed in Bushwick, Brooklyn, with Shaun Galanos. I live in Hacienda Villa, a sex-positive intentional community, and, just like most places on the vanguard, our neighborhood is (still) fairly gritty. So be advised: Bushwick\u2014 is a very noisy place. Trains and sirens and construction and unidentifiable buzzings and whirrings\u2026 let\u2019s just say, you\u2019re definitely gonna hear some local color in this episode. We\u2019ll call it...verite. Shaun Galanos is a 30something silver fox, a Canadian, an American, a 12-time burner, a dog dad, and the host of the podcast The Love Drive, which aims to make sex and love less awkward. He\u2019s also a street performer who gives Free Love Advice. He sets up a sign and his recording kit all over the place, in public parks, at Burning Man, while waiting for transportation, and, before he got chased away for soliciting the customers, at the airport. Point yourself towards thelovedrive.com for everything Shaun (including that free advice he talks about). Shaun and I met on the interwebz and started flirting and brainstorming and podcast-conspiring on Instagram. He\u2019s handsome and charming and skilled in cheeky banter. He makes cute videos in which he talks directly to camera, Ferris Bueller-style. He cares about intimacy! He\u2019s single! So when he came to New York, naturally, we hopped into bed. But only to record. (More on that in the episodes.) In this first part of our conversation, we talk about cruising chat rooms and cybering, wizard sleeves and uncircumcised cocks, the pics of naked men that turn Shaun on, the pics of naked women that turn me on, self-voyeurism, check-ins, and our level of sexual attraction. If you want to hear the second part of our conversation, released next Friday, in which we discuss our pheremones, the hierarchy of relationships, touch-starvation, Old Spice, my breasts, and Shaun tells me a story about risky wedding sex, become a patron of the horizontal arts! And now, come lie down with us in Bushwick, Brooklyn. (whispers) We\u2019re naked. Let\u2019s do the credits! Chad Michael Snavely is my editor and a podcast maven. He has a slew of podcasts you can check out on chadmichael.com. Shana Shay is my illustrator and graphic designer. She specializes in good-looking character illustrations from photographs, like the one you see in my podcast cover art. Hire her through 99designs. Alan Markley is a rock star touring musician, and he created my intro music (with a little bit of sex vox from me - those are the breathy sounds). Find him on Instagram as plasticcannons. Shaun and I also got vertical together. We recorded episode 28 of The Love Drive: how to get invited to a play party in Shaun\u2019s borrowed apartment in Williamsburg. (Despite the title, I make no promises.) But if you\u2019re curious about what a Hacienda sex party is like, well, darlin\u2019, we made you an episode. At the end of that recording, Shaun asked me if I had a parting thought. I said all I could think of was the E.M. Forster quote, \u201cOnly connect.\u201d I don\u2019t think that we will regret any of the time we\u2019ve spent trying to connect with other humans. What I mean is: the time we spent cultivating intimacy in our lives is time worth spending. It is among the worthiest of pursuits. So thank you, thank you for getting horizontal with us. To listen to the rest of our conversation, as we unpack our own challenges getting intimate with each other: Patreon.com\/horizontalwithlila Until next week, I wish you someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. 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