{"version":1,"type":"rich","provider_name":"Libsyn","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.libsyn.com","height":90,"width":600,"title":"52. permission to change your mind: quickie with a sex therapist","description":"This episode was recorded on my horizontal does america tour in November of 2017. I took to the road in a little blue car and drove solo around the country with two intentions: to feel as free as I could possibly feel, and to lie down and record as many episodes with fascinating humans as I could manage. In this quickie episode, recorded right before she headed in to therapize people in the morning, I lie down with the sex therapist Dr. Cat Meyer. Dr. Cat is a spritely, sensual whirligig, with big green eyes and big brown hair and a slender, bendable body. She\u2019s a yoga teacher, a creatrix, a playful creature, a dancer of her prayers, a licensed relationship therapist, and a reiki practitioner. If you live in Beverly Hills, where Dr. Cat sees people in her private practice, she could be your sex therapist. Cat\u2019s own podcast, eatplaysex, which just sounds like whipped cream in podcast form, doesn\u2019t it? explores subjects in the very same wheelhouse as this one. On her Instagram, sexloveyoga, which I follow voraciously, and I suggest you do as well, she shares the writing she spins from thoughtfulness, self-inquiry, gentle nudging, and a vision she holds for us all to open the most profoundly to our deepest longing, pleasure, and confidence\u2026 her posts are little gifts for us, and each serves as a reminder of her mantra, \u201cI choose myself powerfully.\u201d Find her on the interwebz at sexloveyoga.com and catmeyer.com. We first met at a birthday party in Ojai, a 40th birthday extravaganza that was more like a miniature festival than any birthday party I\u2019d ever seen, complete with food trucks, a musical amphitheatre carved of rocks like a miniature Sedona, an elaborate sensual ritual invoking the energies of masculine and feminine to infuse the man we were celebrating, and a giant bathtub truck with a Dr. Bronner\u2019s \u201cfoam experience,\u201d like the one at Foam Against the Machine at Burning Man. The amount of glorious attention and effervescent love paid to this man made me burn with a heady potion of envy, admiration, and inspiration. \u201cI want people to come together over me in this way,\u201d I thought. \u201cI want to facilitate this experience for someone else, too.\u201d Inside the house by the pool, in a room made for cuddling and love, festooned with pillows and soft things, people were practicing AcroYoga. Having taught for so many years, and drifted away from the practice for many more, I sometimes move away from people who are in the throes of it, the ones who fly people at every opportunity, every park visit and ecstatic dance and house party. But this time I was drawn in. I offered a therapeutic flight to a friend of my friend. His first. That looped me in as one of them and built a bridge for them to talk with me. One of them was an AcroYoga teacher as well. When I told him about the podcast, he said, \u201cOh my God, There\u2019s someone here you HAVE to know.\u201d And he called Cat over. Six months later, we were lying on a shaggy rug in her living room, her pet bunny hiding out in the corner, California morning light insistent through the blinds, shaking off sleep and recording this story. We talk about threesomes and the right to change your mind, delayed emotional responses, how the point of sexual no-return is an illusion, being satisfied before orgasm, asking ourselves if it still feels good, looking for yeses and nos in the body as expansions and contractions, and how meditation and affirmations don\u2019t have to look like what we were taught they look like. If you enjoy lying down with us, this is how you can make sure I continue to create independent, uncensored, ad-free radio. Become a patron of the horizontal arts. It\u2019s like a subscription service, crowd-funding for artistic patronage. You offer a monthly contribution, from $2 a month on up, and you get a level of special access to me and my work. You know that you are a direct catalyst for making the world a more intimate place. And I do a happy happy dance, and then get horizontal again. Patreon.com\/horizontalwithlila  I have big plans, big big dreams for what\u2019s next in the world of horizontal, and you can help me happen it. Also, I send what I call \u201cmissives\u201d to my email list once a week. It\u2019s like lobbing a thousand messages in a bottle out to sea. I share my writing (the most recent missive was about my abortion and the right to choose), I share resources from the episodes, I share saucy photos, and other miscellaneous bits of interest, like that time I was in Playboy \u2026 talking about dating outside of your political party in the era of Trump. To receive all this goodness directly in your inbox, sign up on horizontalwithlila.com and add lila@horizontalwithlila.com to your address book, for good measure. We don\u2019t want it getting lost in some \u201cupdates\u201d tab or something, do we? Indeed no. No we do not. And now darling, come lie down with us, and a little white bunny.   *** Season Two has been edited by Chad Michael Snavely. Check out his slew of podcasts on chadmichael.com. Shana Shay drew my sensual cover art, and you can hire her through 99designs. And Alan Markley created my intro music. He\u2019s plasticcannons on Instagram. On next week\u2019s horizontal, I lie down with Wry of Wry Polytalks, a super-entertainer, a clear-talking, thoughtful advocate for alternative relationships, kinky stuff, destigmatizing conversation around mental health, and the host of many, many a panel. His voice is like whiskey and a rec room with burgundy leather armchairs. You\u2019ll see. Until next time, I wish you someone to love, something to do, and something to look forward to. It\u2019s been a pleasure getting horizontal for you. ","author_name":"horizontal with lila","author_url":"https:\/\/horizontalwithlila.com","html":"